Comments on: The Succubus Reconsidered: Sexuality in Sleep Paralysis

By: Ben

Ben — Sun, 02 Jun 2013 00:34:28 +0000

I’ve been having sleep paralysis for a while now. It has a lot to do with PTSD, i was emotionally and physically abused for years and a lot of it had to deal with demonizing my entire sense of sexuality. At first it started out as horrible things, skeletons with glowing eyes, weird creepy midgets grinning at me maliciously, intruders in my apartment and even stranger waking nightmares. It happened on nights i felt the most powerless about my sense of intimacy.

I’ve recently come to a greater acceptance of myself and i’m happy to see how these dreams have changed. They’re no longer night terrors anymore, they’re happy for the most part. I woke up hugging a dog, then realizing i didn’t own a dog pushed it away and it nipped me a bit before disappearing. I had my pet chinchilla visit me from the afterlife. I woke up clutching a beautiful naked brunette, kissing her neck. I saw the dimly lit shape of lesbians having sex on my table. I no longer try to escape these visions, more just sit back and enjoy them. They’re just projections of myself, and i’m glad to see my unconscious finally accepts me back.

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Sat, 11 May 2013 06:34:24 +0000

hey Atlas, your lucid dreaming technique sounds interesting but it pales in comparison to reaching out to your community when suffering from something like this. We’ll never teach the world about these nightmares if we are afraid to talk about it for fear of labels. I suffered from that fear for too long myself.

By: Atlas

Atlas — Thu, 09 May 2013 16:36:07 +0000

Thats the worst abvice ever, hardly anyone understands this process and poor deonte would probably end up in an asylum pumped full of drugs at the word of his “folks” unless you just have really awesome parents. Best thing to do would be to meditate concentrate your power build a mental sword that you can draw in your sleep, most lucid dreamers have a certain item that they use to invoke the power of choice in their dreams. Meditate everyday unti it is powerful, on a sword or some weapon that cannot be stopped or rivaled and slay the spirits that bring you negativity.

By: katherine

katherine — Mon, 06 May 2013 19:24:48 +0000

Ryan,
thank you for the post!
I ahd the same dream aa couple of days ago..
Usually i have these wiht a non-human form,, shadows, etc..
But this one was exactly as you mention, I saw a skinless face as if burnt off, and floating hands to go with it, but no other part of the body…

he was doing some kind of screaming gesture?
I was so scared! This has been one of the worst oens especially since I sleep alone now.. Im wondering if aanyone has filmed themselves???

By: Katherine

Katherine — Mon, 06 May 2013 19:16:10 +0000

karen, I completely understand..!
My first dream was not sexual,, just horrific- sleep paralysis in my room and a daark shadow moving..
I was never religious, but when I was being “attacked” I, for soem reason started repeating
god will help me” in spanish over ad voer adn voer, until I was released

A year later or so, It was sexual with some non-human form,.

And now it has happened so frequently (once or twice a week that I’m so scared to sleep anymore becuase I alwasy feel it coming, Im getting excited in a dream, but then I realize that “it’s” coming again and start to force escape..

By: cara

cara — Mon, 06 May 2013 14:05:40 +0000

I first experenced sleep paralysis around 4 years ago, the first time was terrorfieing! But now im totally obsessed by it.. why does it only happen whilst lieing on your back?.. why cant i even scream? Every expreirience is different.. sometimes a little old woman standing by my head, trying to turn my head to see her is inpossible.. sometimes a face looking down on my like an invissible spirit lying ob top of me.. sometimes its across the other side of the room.. in the form of black smoke! All together the scariest thing ever but im so interested! I would love it to be something more than just a state of sleep! maybe a spirit looking out for me.. my gurdian angel? maybe ile beable to talk to them one day! Im not a weirdo.. just realy fassanated!

By: Katrin Priscilla

Katrin Priscilla — Mon, 06 May 2013 05:56:30 +0000

hello Ryan.. after reading your helpful article, I thought that it would be nice if I share with you my first experience concerning SP. It happened last night (5th May 2013). I went to bed at 2am. I don’t know the exact time did it occurred but this is what I remember : I felt a hand is touching my right butt. At this moment, I knew something’s wrong because I was sleeping alone on my bed. Ever so slowly, I shoved my right hand towards my butt to find out what was actually touching it. I felt it was a man’s hand as it is large & rough, then I started to feel sharp nails….. At this point, I know that this is the devil. Somehow I continue to let him touch because I enjoy it. Things couldn’t be better when I let myself in…… He started to take advantage on me. He made me paralyse. He was lying next to me and I saw a hideous face of a man with no skin. His face looks like it was burnt for a long time. I struggled to get away from him. I was truly, scared that time. So I prayed to Jesus and Mother Mary until it went away.
Just for your information Ryan, I always have SP when I am asleep . It has occurred to me eversince I was 12yrs old. Well, it never stops. I am 19 now. I am a devoted Roman Catholic.

By: Chris Roberts

Chris Roberts — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 23:48:54 +0000

In my childhood I still remember dreaming while I went to sleep some of those strange man picking me up and touching me and making noise and I felt electricuted which is stranger fear but I didn’t know at all.What were they doing to me. One made noise while he was bouncing me like a ball. When I was 10 years old I got used but after I felt was too big for it as it didn’t occur at all. Does anyone know this dream was supposed to tell me.

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Mon, 15 Apr 2013 03:23:01 +0000

Hi Deon’te. welcome to my site. I’m sorry to hear about your concerns, but want to reassure you that these experiences are normal… they are surprisingly common actually, but people don’t often talk about it in public. I would encourage you to tell your folks or your school counselor about these experiences, as they can be treatable. Here’s an article I wrote about ways to prevent SP from happening more — many of the tips are about learning ways to relax before sleep, and also working with your own faith to draw strength. http://dreamstudies.org/2011/04/12/10-ways-to-prevent-sleep-paralysis/

By: Deon'te

Deon'te — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 19:06:27 +0000

Hi im Deon’te. Im only 12 and im going through this stuff. Im really confused… Im a christian but this seems to happen very often. For about 5 years now! Idk whats going on… I’ve done some research but there always seems to be something negative, and something negative. The other night (April 12, 2013) I woke up during the encounter and i saw like a shadow. Then I closed my eyes (not asleep yet) and I was at my school. I saw a beautiful girl sitting there and I asked are you ok. She said, yes im okay. She got up and walked up to me. I stepped back, (resisting) I asked are you one of those mysterious succubus girls. She told me, Look, im only doing this for my health now come closer. I Ran away. I opened my eyes and the SP was still happening. I prayed. I said, GOD, give me the strength. The SP was over I got up and the clock said 3:00 am and I didn’t sleep the rest of that day. I’m paranoid and idk what to do.