This is the third post in my series about working with dreams without a dream dictionary.  Today I’m focusing on dream journalling. Besides basic dream sharing, this is the easiest way to start remembering more dreams and working with them.

Everyone has their own way of keeping a dream journal, so of course the trick is to find what works for you.  These tips below are what works best for me, not only the actual techniques but also the important attitudes to keep for success.

Recording dreams starts with patience

Let’s talk attitudes first.  You want to remember more dreams, but all you have when you wake up in the morning is the vague recollection of the color blue, or the lingering feeling of being frustrated.  It doesn’t seem worth writing down…..  Actually, we all have to start somewhere, and those small clues are the gateway to the dreamworld.  So the attitude of “readiness to work with what I got” is key to starting a dream journal process.

Gotta be patient. You can’t put too much pressure on yourself, especially if it’s been months or even years since you last had a memorable dream.  I’ve found that when I put high expectations on myself to dream, I end up with disappointment.  Dreams are, by definition, mercurial…. they’ll come around, in their own sweet time.

Making the habit stick

Like almost anything that is good for you, dream journaling will be easier to stick with if you make a daily habit of it.  That means setting time aside to record your dreams, as well as having a notebook and pen that is specifically for dreams, and nothing else.  Personally, I’ve noticed that my dream journaling comes in waves: I’ll record six dreams in a row, and then the book will be blank for awhile.  What happened?  More often than not, the wave of  recording started at the beginning of the week when I reset my daily habits.  If I don’t set the intention on Monday, I’ve got no dreams by Friday.

No judgments

Just like I mentioned in my article on dream sharing, it’s important when journaling to suspend all moral judgements about what occurred in the dream.  Dreams have a habit of being socially unacceptable, which is probably one of the reasons why they are hard to recall in the first place.  Dreams often fulfill a desire or express something that would be inappropriate in our life.  As such, dreams are not the work of a corrupt or primitive sense of self as some may argue, but a natural clue to our unmet emotional needs.  And, besides, sometimes stuff is symbolic.   Bottom line, don’t take your dreams too seriously.

5 Techniques for Dream Journaling

I have been writing down my dreams now for twenty years, most of which I have had a separate dream journal,  so I have a lot of data on my dream life.  This also serves as a record for what works and what doesn’t when it comes to journaling techniques.  These are my tips for anyone who is new to dream journaling:

1. Pick your journal carefully, and make sure it speaks to you. Doesn’t matter if it is a fancy leather-bound book with acid-free paper  or a spiral notebook you picked up at the dollar store.  What matters is that it feels good, approachable, and most importantly, that you use the journal for nothing else but writing down those dreams.  Admittedly, I have experimented with mix-use journals over the years, mostly because I was interested to see how my dreams and waking life intertwined.  That’s a story for another time, but the practical result of this mixed-journal approach is that I wrote down less dreams.  So if you are just getting started, I recommend a dedicated book.  No recipes, phone numbers, to do lists.
   

   My first dream journal, started on new year's day, 1991. Age 15. Note the marginalia about technique, and my trepidation.

2. Keep the journal and your dedicated pen by the bed. If you are really serious about recalling more dreams, you want the journal to be the last thing you see before you go to bed, and the first thing you see in the morning.  Also a good idea to have a book light or a pen with a light attached if you want to record a dream in the middle of the night, upon awakening.  Don’t trust that you’ll remember it in the morning — I can’t tell you how many amazing dreams and brilliant ideas I lost with that assumption.
3. Record your dreams in the morning.  This is hard, I know.  But the truth is that the dream is easier to recall in the morning.  Also, our memory of the dream is less polluted by the “whitewashing” that we will later apply.  If you absolutely can’t make time to record your dreams in the morning, jot down the most powerful emotions and images from the dream right after you wake up.  Later, such as over lunch, record the dream more fully. The danger here is, as we keep recalling the dream throughout the day,  we try to “tidy up” the dream into a clean little story with a beginning, middle, and end.  Beware of that urge – dream researchers call it the “narrative effect” when we alter the dream’s memory by adding a connecting element like “I must have gone into the house next because then I was in the living room and….”  Instead, record what you remember.  “Now I’m in the living room..”  More dangerous still is the urge to “drop” a bizarre element that doesn’t seem to fit in the story.  If I catch myself trying to drop a detail that my waking brain says is “unimportant” I make a special note of it.  Why? Because that incongruous detail sometimes turns out to be the most revealing part of the dream later on, once I get some distance.  Tricky, tricky!
4. Pay attention to what happens, as well as any remembered emotions and thoughts you had in the dream.  Remembering these details makes it easier to work with it later on.  It also helps build cognitive bridges between your waking self and your dream self (or selves).  Yeah, we are not always the same person in the dream; that’s one of the coolest aspects of dreaming! I actually make it a practice in my lucid dreams to look in the mirror to see who I am.
5. Give the dream a title. This is a great little tactic taught to me by dreamworker Jeremy Taylor.  Giving each dream a title forces you to sum up the dream into a theme.  It also makes it easier to find the dream later on when you want to cross-reference it. Something short and sweet works best, like “Rotten sandwiches at lunch” or “Argument with my sister brings on a bubble party.”  Sometimes these titles can later be instructive as well, as they may contain unintentional puns or admissions.

Okay, my challenge to you is to set up your dream journal system tonight!  Seriously, pick out a notebook on the way home from work, or dust off your old dream journal that hasn’t seen any action for 10 years.  Choose a good pen.  Put them on your nightstand or within grasping reach of your bed. Plan out the morning in your head: wake up, jot down dream fragments, get up, brush teeth, shower, and eat breakfast. Next, record dreams.  Done.

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When are you interested in dream for the first time and why?
I wrote my first dream down at age 11, and have had a consistent interest in dreams since age 15. My early dreams were both exciting and scary, and I was not satisfied with most people’s answer “it’s just a dream, it doesn’t matter.”

Do people always dream when they are in sleep or can there be someone who doesn’t dream at all?
Current research suggests that everyone dreams every night, but not everyone remembers these dreams. However, there are many sleep disorders that makes it difficult to get much dreamtime, as well as conditions where dreamers act out their dreams violently while they sleep. The average sleeper has about 90 minutes of dreams a night, but if they live in a culture that does not appreciate these dreams, they are less likely to remember them.

I heard that some people have dreams in black and white? Why is that so while life around us is always in color?
This is a confusing matter. It is difficult to discern because dream recall is unreliable about color in dreams. However, recent laboratory research indicates that about 80% of dreams have some significant, or “striking” color. Check out Robert Hoss’s research for more on dreams and color: www.dreamscience.org

Can blind people dream when they do not see anything but dark?
The congenitally blind (those who have been blind since birth) report narrative dreams with specific content but it is difficult to tell if this content is “seen” or “known.” They also report imageless dreams as well. (There is some interesting related research about blind sight during near death experiences).

What is the cause of the nightmare? I heard that some parents said the nightmare is one of processing for children’s growth” If it is true, is it good for having nightmare or bad?
This is a highly debated topic in dream science! I believe that nightmares are important, even though they are unpleasant. I would agree that they are part of psychological growth, as a way of getting us to pay attention to something that needs resolution or healing. Jeremy Taylor, a dream researcher often jokes, “You had a nightmare” How lucky!” He means that this is an opportunity for psychological growth.

About the lucid dream: Could you intentionally have lucid dream in which you can control its contents or it is just unexpected when you have lucid dream?
Many people can decide to have lucid dreams on specific nights (known as “dream incubation”) and others have them spontaneously. Control of the dream is over-rated in lucid dreaming ” it is impossible to fully control every aspect of a dream. Really lucid dreaming is about being self-aware that “this is a dream!” and having more self-control and decision-making power. Manipulating dreams is still possible, but difficult to regulate.

So, someone can decide to dream a new setting, or meet a new dream figure of their choosing, but they don’t always anticipate what comes next! That is the beauty of lucid dreaming ” it is a balance between making thoughtful decisions (such as facing something scary) and being open to the unknown of the dream.

There are dream journals people talk about, how could people write about dream that they don’t remember after waking” Why can some people remember their dreams while others can’t?
Keeping a dream journal is the best way I know to start remembering more dreams. Select one that you like and use it only for dreams. Keep it private, and next to your bed. When you wake up in the middle of the night, use a light pen or a small book lamp and write down the aspects of the dream that you remember.

If you don’t remember many dreams, sometimes at first these are just feelings (sad, anxious, safe, etc) or vague feelings of being somewhere familiar (an old house you lived in as a child, school, etc) or even just a bit of color or a single image. Start here and don’t worry that these aren’t huge elaborate dreams that other people tell. Over time, you are training your waking mind to remember dreams and you will remember more of them.

Personally, I have kept a dream journal since I was 15. I don’t always write down my dreams, because I have so many that I”d be writing all day! So I pick the ones that are most unusual, or emotional.

We read a lot of story in novels that people have premeditation through dream. Can dream predict the future? Is that what other call d j vu?
Great question! There is lots of research on dreams and premeditation and telepathy. Many people have had predictive dreams, but it is difficult to isolate it in a way that has been accepted by the scientific community. Some dreams play out future scenerios that are likely, so they aren’t necessarily evidence of psi. I recommend looking into the work of Stanley Krippner, Robert van de Castle, and the Maimonides Project on Paranormal Dreams.

D j vu is may be a related topic ” the experience of feeling like “I”ve been here before, this has happened before. This could be a memory of a similar dream, but it is difficult to prove! Many cultures around the world (and throughout history) accept that dreams warn of the future, connect people who are separated by large distances, and allow contact with ancestors and the deep past.

So at the end of the day, it may be about what you believe and think is possible. If you keep an open mind, there is a great chance of experiencing some of these things.

A lot of dream interpretation books in bookstore say things like “Whenever you take an oath in your dream, prepare for dissension and altercations on waking.” Where do these interpretation come from” Do you think dream interpretations are reliable or are they just for fun?
I would be wary of easy dream interpretations from a book, although dream dictionaries are a good starting place. Different cultures interpret dream symbols in different ways, so it depends on the individual’s culture.

There are some reliable “universal” dream symbols that seem to be consistent across the world ” check out Patricia Garfield’s book The Universal Dream Key: The 12 Most Common Dream Themes Around the World. Other dream symbols can be very personal and individual, so no book can tell you their significance. That is a mystery best left only to you and those who know you best.

In the future, do you think it is possible that there could be computers that show what peoples” dream like which we can see in the movies (example: Minority report)?
To be honest, I hope not!! Watch the Japanese anime film “Paprika” for a great example of how this could be a bad idea. Science so far has had great success at describing and locating the “exteriors” of thoughts, by which I mean the physical and electrochemical signs of thoughts, but science still can not get “inside” a person’s thoughts or dreams. Partially, this is because many scientists do not believe there is an “inside.”

This is what makes consciousness research so interesting to me. At the end, only we as individuals can “see” the world as we see it.