Comments on: False awakenings

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 07:56:30 +0000

I’m so appreciative of everyone who has shared a story on this thread – thanks! We really can learn from each other in this way.

Lulux, I responded to your comment on one of the SP articles, but after reading your in-depth account here, I really think your counsellor is giving solid advice. facing fears and “accepting” or “submitting” to the situation is one of the hardest things to do in the moment. I have had many, many lucid nightmares too and know how it feels on the inside to work yourself up into a frenzy. in your other comment, I recommended my lucid nightmare advice post – but I really recommend you read the whole series (five articles in total) starting here.

Also, if you haven’t already, download my free ebook on “enhancing your dreamlife” because it contains many little ways you can create a safe place in your bedroom before going to bed. I also will cover this material and a lot more in the upcoming sleep paralysis ebook.

do keep in touch! Feel free to contact me through the about page.

By: Lulux

Lulux — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 14:45:30 +0000

Sophie and Phoenix:
I am so glad I found this site. For the past 2 years I have been, what I do not lightly call “suffering”, from these so called type 2 false awakenings. I am a 21 year old female and am at my wits end on how to stop this sleep pattern as it has become a disturbance in my life. I have been experiencing really similar sleep disturbances to what both of you have described, almost 4 times a week for about 2 years.

My false awakenings are very similar to both of your experiences. Upon realising I am dreaming after I have “woken up”, I get out of my bed to turn on my bedroom light, which is broken. Panic then sets in. I feel a really doomed presence in the room, like something either demonic or frightening is coming for me. Sometimes I see a shadowy presence. I can feel myself start sweating, my heart rate increases. In the dream I run through the house to look for my mum for help but I can not talk or scream, no matter how hard I try and the fatigue of trying to get help and wake up forces me back into another false awakening. I think I am actually calling out? I can hear my strangled voice in the dream. I try to wake myself up like you guys have, with the head jerk off the pillow, but only to have another false awakening. This will happen 5 or 6 times during a night and I have often woken up screaming.. which immediately feels stupid when I know I am awake for certain! Just the other night after about 3 false awakenings I was determined to get out of my bed to reach the light, but I was so fatigued and groggy that I fell out of the bed onto my stomach. I could feel the carpet give me carpet burn on my chin and stomach and I could smell the dust from under my bed. It is so vivid and frightening, I wonder if I am sleepwalking?

I find the frequency of this scary type of false awakening occurs way more often when I have had an afternoon nap that day. I read on wiki that lucid dreaming occurs during the deepest REM cycle at around 5-7 hours after stage one of sleep, and this is definitely when these are happening as I have realised when I actually am awake and check the clock.

These dreams have sent me to a psychologist.I have anxiety and I thought that these were panic attacks, and they are so frightening sometimes that I can’t get back to sleep. To reduce the severity or onset of a panic attack, those with anxiety are instructed to meditate or carry out breathing exercises before sleep in order to control breathing and in turn, mediate the physiological symptoms associated with anxiety or a panic attack (i.e. controlling breathing indirectly controls heart rate, BP etc). However, wiki advises people attempting to successfully enter lucid states of sleep to do these very exercises before heading to bed. I’m in a bit of a pickle.. the preventor appears to be a cause.

I’m at a total loss. I’m tired and avoiding sleep. Phoenix like you have said; the thought is at the back of my mind that I may never wake up!

The counsellor I am seeing has suggested that instead of trying to wake up, that I just give up and submit to the dream; similar to what people with anxiety do when experiencing a panic attack. Its a pretty hard thing to do when you know you’re asleep and in a state of hypervigilance which causes you to percieve ( albeit incorrectly) that you’re in some kind of danger.

If anyone has anymore thoughts on this I’d really appreciate hearing from you.

By: sophie

sophie — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:58:42 +0000

Hi Phoenix,

Luckily I don’t get them that frequently anymore, but yeah it can be really disorientating, disturbing and definately exhausting when it happens. The last time it happened was just before christmas but before that at least a good six months ago. It’s interesting that your boyfriend has talked to you when its happening aswell, I’d be quite keen to know whether I really am jerking my head off the pillow in quite such an aggresive way as it feels. As far as I know no one has ever witnessed it as yet, mainly when it happens though I feel I am very aware of my surroundings other people are usually asleep or I am on my own. As for my boyfriend, he is either a very heavy sleeper, sleep talking or wandering around the bedroom in his sleep. We must make for quite a funny sight! As for how to stop or reduce it I’m not sure. I know I get it far less frequently than I did in my teens and perhaps this may be down to a more routined sleeping pattern these days. I find now that it most likely happens when I am very very tired or have had a very irregular sleeping pattern for a while, maybe this would be down to going out or drinking too much (most likely why it happened at christmas.)

Other than that I’m stumped but glad to hear that other people know that wierd fuzzy heavy head jerk.

By: phoenix

phoenix — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 09:15:05 +0000

Hi Sophie, i have had many many experiences of false awakenings like the ones you described. In fact, i had one just last night. you somehow realize in your dream that you are dreaming so you now try to jerk your head off the pillow ( i do exactly the same thing to try to wake myself up) to wake yourself up. I sometimes have to gather energy and count to 3 and then try to jerk my extremely “heavy” head to wake myself up. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. You just have this feelings in your head like you have been heavily drugged or something like that. Sometimes i ended up falling right back into sleep and into another false awakening after jerking myself awake and i experience sleep paralysis and/or hallucinations on top of the false awakening. i think the fact that I am aware that I am dreaming but actually can’t wake myself up is the most frightening aspect of all. sometimes i feel like i could be trapped in my dreams forever and not being able to ever wake up. I can hear my boyfriend in the room asking if i am having a nightmare but i couldn’t say anything or sometimes i thought i said something to him but in reality, i didn’t. When i finally woke up, i confirmed with him what i heard during my false awakening and it was real. he did ask if i was having a nightmare. It is so bizzare.!!! I guess part of my brain is actually concious and awake while part of it is still dreaming. I am sure you can relate. i am not sure if there is anything out there that can help eliminate or reduce the frequency of this aweful experience. If anyone has any ideas, please kindly share! i hate to suffer so frequently from this weird, horrifying, exhausting and “in between sleep and awake” experience.

By: sophie

sophie — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:16:19 +0000

I have experience numerous false awakenings, sometimes 6 or 7 to one nights sleep. I found that these were most reccurent and vivid around the age of 14 or 15. I had main reccuring dream around this age in which I woke up 5 or 6 times in my bed at my parents house and then (whilst still in the dream)would try to get back to sleep, I’d usually hear music and at first I’d enjoy it then think “Hang on, I didn’t put any music on” and realise I must be dreaming try to force myself awake. I did this by physically jerking my head off the pillow, a really really strange feeling, very very slow and heavy feeling but also quick and panicky, like trying to pull your head out of a vat of treacle or something. Anyway sometimes this would work, but usually I’d find myself in another vivd false wakening and when it did eventually work I’d be quite freaked out as I’d already woken up in a dream 5 or 6 times. The most vivd of these dreams I remember started off in the same way, waking up in the dream in my bed at my parents house, then the music, then waking up and then progressively on each new false waking I’d notice something was wrong with my room, at first it would be something small like a book was there I didn’t recognise then after each waking it would get bigger, a wall would be a different colour, then two, then they all would stated changing colours infront of my eyes, untill eventually the whole room was changing round. At this point (in the dream) I ran into my parents room andd told then I thought I was going mad, but I couldn’t speak at all and it was very hard to move my mouth, then I fainted and in slow motion saw my mum have the most vivd and horrendous breakdown but could do nothing, all I could hear was a drumbeat in my ears. Finally I woke up for real but ould move for what seemed liek an age, My heart was racing and I could hear it resonating throughout my whole head, After what was probably only 20 seconds or so, I was awake could move and felt pretty normal but a little freaked out. It still happens now, but not as much and generally only when I am very very tired I am usually aware that I am dreaming now when it happens and can wake myself up by forcing myself to jerk my head of the pillow, still get that pulling my head out of treacle feeling though, strange.

Sorry this was quite a long post, just thought I’d share.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 20:23:24 +0000

I think the difference between these two states is easily explained by some terminology: Sleep paralysis happens in a hypnagogic (on the verge of sleep) or hypnapompic (on the verge of waking) state, while false awakenings are a lucid experience that occurs during normal REM cycles.

By: ricky

ricky — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 20:26:17 +0000

I have had this experience many times, and im already use to it, cuz one time i thought i was awake, but then i realized that when i was about to eat breakfast, all of the sudden i was back in bed, also another thing that creeped me out, was when i was lying in bed floating from it a little, and then this clock in front of me on the wall, it had jesus on it, and he was moving, he lifted up his hands like he was telling me something, then something crazy happened he was juggling balls like a circus, just very weird and they i woke up, and the clock in front of me was still and didn’t move at all, very awkward and mystifying.

By: Dungan

Dungan — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 05:08:40 +0000

bluelace, you’re not crazy – many people have noted the difference in feeling tone and clarity in false awakening type dreams and the average spontaneous nightmare. for this reason, it may be advantageous to view false awakenings as more related to OBEs, alien abductions, and spirit visitations than dreams. Lucidity, stability of setting, and a certain archetypal character to the other dream/vision figures lends to this recategorization. These encounters are psychologically real and the closes thing we have to structurally intact vision sequences in modern western culture.

By: bluelace

bluelace — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:48:25 +0000

in a three month period on the year of 2008, i had two dreams i remember of a false awakening, in the first one i was completely unaware i was dreaming but the second i assumed after a while it was a dream. nothing was abnormal or impossible in the one a food otem clarified it had been a dream, in the dream a roommate had eaten what still existed when i really awoke, i felt as if i were floating but in the midst of demonic spirits, it was my normal environment around me, but the feeling of darkness, a few months before my 1st false awakening i dreamed the earth fell from space sucked into a sink hole this was december 12, 2006, i had known nothing about the doomsday of the mayans, but in my dream the world did not end but much catastophe oocured, i have many nightmares but theae three dreams were very different, the feeling and alertness were diferent, maybe im just crazy but the realness so intense they stick to me

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