Comments on: Visitation dreams: When the Veil between Worlds is Thin

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 18:49:46 +0000

I have had 3 dreams of my late ex fieance. 1st one the day after he died.. N this dream I was on the phone fighting with his sister and then I hung up and he called me asking me what was going on. And I was trying to explain to him, and he said hold on I’ll be right there. Well I looked around this room I was in.. A white kinda dim lit room and then I seen him pull up and when I open the door I just grabbed him and hugged him. I could feel him and smell him. And I remember everything he had on. But he was talking to me but he was just smiling and his mouth wasn’t moving but I could hear him.. He told me sry for everything and he said other things to me. But he was really sry and so I hugged him again and he said he had to go bc “she” was waiting for him.. Idk who she was if it was his new gf or what?? But then my latest dream I had was when I got to this place I told myself, ok u know when u find him u gotta ask him some questions and u can’t forget. So I went around this corner of this building and there he was working on something n back of a truck… So I stopped and just stood there and he looked up and smiled and said, “hey! U made it back” and I told him before I wake up I need to ask u a few things.. And he said ok. And I asked him if he still loved me. And he smiles and said yes I do. And then I asked him how is it where u are and he said that he was a little bored and I kinda looked at him like huh?? And he smirked and said I know right? And I remember asking these questions so fast bc I wanted to get them all out before I work up. So my last question was when am I gonna be with u again? And he said a month and a day of the week ( which I am not saying) and then he started to talk about this watch n this magazine. And explaining it and I was thinking to myself… Y r u talking about a stupid watch don’t u know we have limited time before I wake up? And I inturruped him and said is this real or am I n a dream!? And he laughed at me again and said.. U see this watch??? When u see this watch on this certain page ( he gave me a number) that will be ur sign… Then I just looked at him for a sec then I felt my self waking up.. Now I don’t know if I’m crazy bc he ment a great deal to me. Or if this is real. There’s more details on things but i just kinda gave u the run down on it. But most stories i read are the spirits coming to u not you going to them…

By: Rose

Rose — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 07:24:00 +0000

I am so glad to have found this site. It verifies and matches the visitation dreams I’ve had. My partner passed away in September 2009. I’ve had only 2 visitation dreams from him, one about a month after he passed away, the other about 6 months after he passed away. The first one occurred in the kitchen of the house I was staying in, the last one was in the bed I was sleeping in while it happened. In both dreams I could literally feel his skin like it was in real life. In the first one we just hugged, I said I was so happy to see him and that was it. The second one, I was lying on my side in bed when suddenly I felt arms around me. I turned over and he was lying there, smiling at me. I said to him “I can actually feel your arms around me!” And he just smiled so widely at me. He looked so happy, and just the same as he did before he passed away. (It was sudden so he was healthy before he passed). We just hugged and said I love you. I said to him “will you wait for me?” and he said “of course I will”. Then I felt him “pulling away”, saying he had to go. I didn’t want him to but he left and then the dream ended. I woke up remembering it all very clearly. It was quite a simple, quick dream, but meant so much to me. I pray every night to have another.

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 14:22:29 +0000

Hi Sarah,

I’m sorry to hear how you’re suffering. If this were my dream, even though the dreams are painful, I’d think it is good sign I am now grieving in the dream itself. Emotional dreams that are so transparent can have a cathartic effect — in other words, these dreams are moving through a grieving process… a painfully slow one. Also, if it were my dream, I’d notice how once again how male figures are “taking” from my relationship with my mother — a critical voice that says “This isn’t valuable!” and another who steals the coins altogether. Even though Mom is gone, the dreams reveal energies and patterns that are still present.

Therapists who work with dreams in your area may help: not all therapists do work with dreams, so shop around and ask this upfront. Many are available for a small fee or on a sliding scale. Also there may be dream groups in you area (see this list for regional contacts for the International Association for the Study of Dreams:
http://www.asdreams.org/idxmembership_contacts.htm

Because this is so personal, I also invite you to contact me privately by email to continue the discussion: http://dreamstudies.org/about/

By: sarah

sarah — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 16:17:58 +0000

hi again ryan again another disturbing dream. i drempt i was lookin in a drawer and found 2 silver dollars the date on the was 1984 then suddenly my heart ached for her. i cried and cried so hard just like it was the day it happened. i then took the coins to a shop where this man was a sheriff from the western days he said they were worthsss seven dollars and fifty cents now. a man came in and stole one of them. then i went down to a room where people were watching a westren show my mom was a actactor in the movie. then i relized she again was passed on and i cried and cried again so hard. today i am carring this sadness with me do dpepressed feeling over everything. god how can i get tbhese dreams to stop.? i am so tierd of these terrible dreams. i have tired counsling ect nothing is helping any ideas i juat dont know if maybe my mom is telling me something and wont let go

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 00:30:28 +0000

Sarah,
that second dream offers a clue for a meditation to help cleanse away the “foul-smelling” dreams. Clear running water. Next time you pray, or whenever you want to give your mom positive attention, focus on that clear running stream. Imagine the water, how it feels, running over your feet and her feet. Imagine it washing away all the negativity, hurt, and pain. It’s still important, of course, to let yourself feel your pain and anger, but it seems to me that this imagery is what your dream unconscious has suggested for cleansing the hurt when you are ready.

take care, Ryan

By: sarah

sarah — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 00:06:27 +0000

thank you so much. i do believe what you said. our family is a very dysfunctional one . i am considered the only one that is sane in the family as my counselor has told me. my brother is a pedophial my sister is a compulsive liar as i am always the one that is lied about.my dad is a very sick man mentally and physically. he has cheated with women on my mom while she was living. yes i so believe what you said about her suffering and i sometimes feel angry that she let it happen to her and all of us and stayed with my dad. maybe i am also angry at her for this. i dreampt the other night she was in a room on a be laid her body and on a couch she also sat. i left the room to get something or do something and when i came back there she sat on the couch dead with her eyes open on me. then i had a more pleasant dream of her she and i were sitting with our feet in this clear running water it was warm on our feet. i think i thought it would somehow heal her cancer but not sure but it was a more calming dream. i am sure another bad one will come soon as it always does. my mom was cremated and my sister took her ashes so i will pray like you advised and hopefully this will help me. i do not see any of my family as they always back bite me in some way. thank you so so so much for caring. may god bless you in many ways. sarah

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 16:22:13 +0000

Sarah,

sorry I couldn’t respond sooner — I’ve been out of internet range for several weeks as I moved. Your dream is powerful and seems metaphorically to suggest that – if it were my dream – she has not been properly ‘dressed for burial.’ This could mean a number of things, including your own conflicting feelings that have not been put to rest and possibly family secrets that still moulder in the air and need to be seen and then disposed of properly. I don’t know your situation, but perhaps more ritual at the memorial garden or more prayers at night in which you call out the hardships she endured and thank her for her strength and honor her for her suffering. Many people have trouble with their own feelings while grieving, especially if on the face of things we’re supposed to be happy for those who have passed on because they are in a better place, so honoring your own feelings and giving yourself space to grieve, be angry or sad, and really touch the ground can be helpful for this long process. warmly, RH

By: sarah

sarah — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 14:37:23 +0000

I dont know what to think my mom has passed away almost three years ago now and i loved her she was a abused wife all her life by my dad mental physical ect. I dream of her every now and then never good always she is a zombie she dies with her eyes open we forgot to bury her ect. I have only had one dream i was talking to her on the phone all others are terrible. she smells like rotten meat when i get close. I wish i knew what this is telling me. she was a good christian woman but always evil is what i dream could someone help me?

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 07:10:18 +0000

thanks for commenting Olli. I am a big fan of Katja and Antti's work - I wrote a piece about their theory here. Clearly, our ancestors are those who were good dreamers, but we are still missing the crucial mechanisms that account for how dreaming improves learning/memory. But there are actually some excellent scientific studies that are peer reviewed and with statistically significant results that indicate that anomalous information does come through dreaming cognition. (Not this this directly answers the "life after death" question, of course). Check out Charles Tart's "the End of Materialism" for a very readable review of the last 30 years of research into parapsychology. The truth about mainstream science treatment of anomalous psychology is that "a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest."

By: Ryan Hurd

Ryan Hurd — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:57:12 +0000

synchronicities like this is what dreamwork is all about Lee!